Choosing friends

Most of us seem to choose our friends by who we are comfortable with, who we trust, and who we have something in common with. The problem is that we then keep complaining about the same things. Either we run into the same problems with friends time and time again, or our lives keep taking the same wrong turn, or we just aren't getting what we feel we need to out of life. What if we need a different approach on choosing our friends? Maybe we need to figure out what we need in our lives and find friends who have acheived what we need. For instance if we need more peace in our lives we probably find peaceful people boring and would not be attracted to them as friends. However your life keeps getting turned upside down and you can't figure out why. If you pursued a friendship with someone who has acheived the peace you need it would be uncomfortable at first because you approach you life in different ways. If you make a decision to move past that discomfort and to learn and respect their approach to life, while you may not fully adopt it, you'll learn something incredibly valuable and be so much closer to the life you've always wanted. So what do you need more of in your life and who can you start spending time with to help push you in that direction?